The Ways We Love: A Developmental Approach to Treating Couples

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Guilford Press, 28. 1. 2004 - 356 strán (strany)
This volume delineates a developmental theory of love relationships that provides a comprehensive approach to treating couples. Drawing on her 30 years of clinical experience, Sheila A. Sharpe conceptualizes marriage and other committed partnerships as comprising multiple patterns of relating that develop over time in a parallel, though interconnected, fashion. Seven universal patterns of intimate relating are identified: nurturing, merging, idealizing, devaluing, controlling, competing for superiority, and competing in love triangles. Sharpe demonstrates how these patterns originate in a person's early experience, are reworked in different ways throughout life, and express everyone's basic needs for both connection and separateness. Supplying vital insights and tools for therapeutic work, the volume offers the clinician a multifaceted perspective on how couple relationships grow and what happens when their growth becomes derailed.

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The Foundation of Loving
15
Cultural Myths and Marital Malnourishment
30
The Development of Nurturing Common Treatment Problems
37
The Caretaker and the Needful Child A Nurturing Collusion
73
Merging
95
Closeness as Oneness
97
The Development of Merging Common Treatment Problems
100
Idealizing
123
The Development of Devaluing Common Treatment Problems
201
The Judgmental Parent and the Guilty Child A Blaming Collusion
220
Controlling
243
Whos in Charge?
245
The Development of Controlling Common Treatment Problems
255
Competing
277
Whos better and Vying for Love
279
Winning Losing and Gender
282

The Bedrock of Passion
125
The Development of Idealizing Common Treatment Problems
128
The Adoring Parent and the Adorable Child An Idealizing Collusion
161
Patterns of Separateness
193
Devaluing
195
Youre No Good
197
Competing for Superiority Development and Common Treatment Problems
298
Competing in Love Triangles Development and Common Treatment Problems
316
Love Triangles in Couple Therapy
333
References
345
Index
351
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Sheila A. Sharpe, PhD, specializes in psychotherapy with couples and individuals in private practice in La Jolla, California. Dr. Sharpe teaches in the Advanced Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy Program of the San Diego Psychoanalytic Society and Institute, and has published and presented widely on couple therapy.

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